Dating can be fun, rewarding and life changing. For some of us though, we just can’t seem to get things right when we go out with someone we like. There are many reasons for this, not least the fact that we feel under pressure to be a ‘good’ date. Ideally, a date will be a relaxed and friendly event, with both parties having fun and ending the night glad they chose to go on the date. Even better, a date should end with the(potential) couple fixing up another date. Even better than that, a date is a raging success if the night ends with some loving – let’s not beat around the bush here!
I’m going to give you some tips that you can start implementing right away in your dates. They will improve your chances of having a better time, and even ‘sealing the deal’. Pay close attention.
1. If you are tense and nervous – try not to show it too much. Whilst a little vulnerability can be endearing and ‘cute’, too much will often turn the other person off.
2. Show interest in the other person as much as possible. You will of course talk about yourself too, but try to sound as interesting as possible without coming across as big headed.
3. Demonstrate good etiquette and manners. This should go without saying, but you’d be surprised how some people act on dates!
4. Offer to pay. This one is mostly aimed at the guys. Still, even if you are female you should be open to contributing if you are eating out – especially if you have already been on a few dates previously.
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5. Make eye contact. Don’t look away from the other person while you are speaking. It will look like you aren’t interested in them. Similarly, make all your body language as open and relaxed as possible.
6. Make them laugh. Even if you don’t think you are particularly funny, there will be so many opportunities to inject some humor into the date. Even if you are mocking yourself, if you can make the other person laugh it will make them feel more relaxed and at ease.
7. Be yourself. Yes, this is a cliche, but so many people try and be something they are not just to impress another person. Even if you are just looking for some casual fun, there is absolutely no need to exaggerate or lie.
Those are what I like to call the seven steps to dating heaven. Follow them, and there’s no reason why you can’t have sensational dates, and who knows – you might even meet that special someone sooner than you think.
